A couple of years ago, some friends and I went to the Windy City, Chicago for a Conference on starting a church. Two surprises: 1) There was no wind. Huh! And 2) The Conference had more to do with the health of marriages in the new church than.. the new church. This quote was huge: A marriage that is "back-to-back" is in trouble. A marriage that is "side-to-side" is a good partnership but needs work. A strong marriage - one that you want - is "face-to-face." If you're married, which is yours? Do you talk, communicate, look into each other's eyes, kiss, "see" one another... everyday? If a church is as strong as the strength of the marriages in it, then work on the less obvious but most important piece.